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On the Grow in Menomonee Falls!

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 14:03:00 +0000

I'm really excited about tomorrow's class: Under the Sea. It's an "On the Grow" class, part of the new, expanded Baby Signs Curriculum. This class is designed for pre-schoolers, ages 2-5, and includes fun signs, stories, a craft, and some movement. We'd love to see you there!

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Milwaukee-WI/Baby-Signs-with-1000-Praises-Doulas-for-Birth-and-Beyond/52188484732?v=app_2344061033#/event.php?eid=156784527895&index=1

Happy Halloween, Baby!

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 03:43:00 +0000

I spent Halloween in the hospital- with a momma, beginning at 06:00 for an induction. She was already dilated to four- has been for weeks, so they started straight in with the Pitocin. Momma was 34 weeks, has a history of pre-term labors, and had been ruptured for 7+ days. She's also GBS+, so Pit and antibiotics were hung at the same time. She had an ultrasound at 6. to confirm Vertex- (baby was breech on Wednesday, vertex on Thursday, breech on Friday....) All was go, so at 7am, they started cranking up the Pit. It didn't take much to get her into a pattern of regular contractions, though the monitor was having a tough time picking them up, because her uterus was still fairly small, because she was pre-term. by 10:30, she was contracting every two to three minutes, in a good solid pattern. At 11, Doc arrived, checked, pronounced her "still 4 and less than 25%effaced" and placed an IUPC, which caused significant pain, and bleeding. After about an hour, mom insisted that the cath be removed, because it was not registering the contractions, and it HURT. They pulled the cath, and her contractions picked up. The resident checked and she ws "5 and 90%., and baby was at 0-+1. Nurse insisted that she shift to her side, and contractions stopped. I've never seen anything like it- pit cranked to 26, and NOTHING.Mom sent me downstairs for lunch, and got into bed from the chair. When I got back, mom was on the phone with her kids. They cranked the pit again, broke her forebag and contractions resumed with a vengeance. Mom requested meds, and they gave her one of the -phines- not morphine, but something close, I think Nalorphine.

Mom went straight into transition, within ten minutes of getting the drug. We got on the call button, and soon our nurse, the doc, and the NICU team were scrambling, because she was pushing. Baby came flying out, just before two- a lovely little girl, cried right away, the dock almost fumbled her, she came out so fast!Mom got to hold her for a few minutes before NICU took her away.

She's tiny, but a fighter. She's off of any breathing support, and off of the NG tube, and bottle feeding well. they expect her to be released soon. Mom was devastated at having to leave the hospital without her.

I'll let you know when she comes home.

Tunnel Vision & Selective Listening

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 05:04:00 +0000

Working with this latest client has given me a whole new perspective on tunnel vision as it affects doctors, nurses, and the birth community in general.

My client is a grand mulitp with a history of premature births, and several children at home. She's been hospitalized and put on bedrest, and her bag has a high leak- which would be no big deal, except that she's also a single parent, 32 weeks, and her kids are in the custody of their grandmother who wasn counting on having them for days, not weeks.

Mom had steroid injections about a month ago to promote lung development. She's been suffering through injections to prevent early labor since 17 weeks. She's unhappy, stressed, and uncomfortable. She's also extremely worried about her kids- things are not going well at grandma's house.

Her doctor had the gall to say that none of that was her concern- that her only concern was the well being of the unborn baby. She told my client that if this baby wasn't her only concern too, that she was a bad mother! She wouldn't hear the concerns that mom has that her older kids are possibly being abused at grandma's house, (she's an abuse survivor) that mom is constantly wet and uncomfortable, or any of mom's concerns about her prior history of labors-

This lady is a GOOD mom. She's worried about all of her kids- the ones that are already here and living, as well as this new one on the way. She's trying to balance their needs as well as she can, but everyone around her is telling her that she's a bad mother for not listening to them- her older kids caretakers, the school, the doctors& nurses who have played the "dead baby" card more than once. They've threatened her with cord prolapse, poor lung function, hemorrhage, her death and the baby's death to keep her in the hospital. What happened to treating the WHOLE woman- not just her pregnancy?

Baby Signs Story

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 11:46:00 +0000

Sign, Say and Play class is going well, and today we got A. and her mother back- It was great to see them again. Mom told a great story-

A usually sees her Daddy at breakfast, he stops in at lunch, and she sees him again at dinner, but this last week he's had a big project that hasn't allowed him to come in for meals. He came inside for tools, and stopped to quickly kiss A, on his way back out the door- and she began to sign "more" while saying the word "Da-Da"- Daddy took a break for an hour, to spend time with his little girl. How wonderful that she could let her parents know that she missed her Daddy and wanted him to spend more time with her!

I'll be running sample classes in October to promote the new site opening in November. I'm beginning to offer classes at Bay View Community Center, and Well Rounded Maternity Center may be moving into Milwaukee!

On the doula side of life, things have been very slow. I have only one client at the moment, due in December, but likely to go as early as mid November.

that's all for now.

Too much Excitement for a Sunday....

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Sun, 31 May 2009 16:21:00 +0000

Boo was "missing" for about an hour this morning. He called me from church, to say there was no Sunday School, and where was Daddy?

I told him to walk home (it's not that far) and his dad will meet him and pick him up on the way. I took the dog, and started down the street to meet him and take him for ice cream, if Daddy didn't find him on his way home.

In the Meantime, his scout leader, from whom he borrowed a cell phone(his was left at home), offered him a ride home, which he took. He didn't bother to call me and let me know.

Daddy (who ALSO didn't have his cell phone with him) found me waiting at the halfway point, on the verge of calling the police. We ran home to check and see if we'd missed him, and yes, he was waiting on the doorstep. (He didn't have his house key either.)

All the worry could have been alleviated, if EITHER of them had had their cell phones with them!

Moral: if you have a cell phone, TAKE IT WITH YOU! It does no good sitting on the nightstand!

How I spent my Sunday.....

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Mon, 18 May 2009 11:51:00 +0000

http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2011651&id=1384244609&l=1fadb3c203

Boo decided to be helpful, and loaded up the dishwasher at the cabin. He couldn't find the dishwasher detergent right away, so he used liquid dish soap instead.

It took close to six hours to clean up the mess- because the bubbles just kept coming! Even after we cleaned out the dishwasher of what we hoped was all the soap, the bubbles kept coming. It was EXACTLY like a sitcom. I'd have been furious- if I could have stopped laughing.....

This is amazing- The Contraction Song

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Wed, 06 May 2009 12:11:00 +0000

Found on Patty Ramos's Blog, This video sings for itself:

Moms ROCK.

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 22:05:00 +0000

So, I'm home , and finally awake.

Was birthin' last night- a very sweet mom who was hoping for a VBAC*. I got the call around 9:30, and figured, since this was essentially a 1st baby, that we would have plenty of time. So I took my shower, and got my stuff together, and headed for their house. The plan was to stay home as long as she felt comfortable staying home. I was about 8 blocks from the house, when I got a second call: We're going to the hospital. I got to the house, helped them load the car, and off we went!

The HOSPITAL, bless them, had changed their policy since the last birth I attended: the front entrance is no longer avialable after 8 PM. So we had to find our way to Emergancy, only to discover that the PARKING for Emergancy is over a block away! Dad took Mom in and up to the floor, while I parked my car, and hiked over. I signed in, and headed up, to where Mom was in triage. Mom's contractions when we left home were >3 minutes apart, and long- by the time we got to the hospital, they were pretty much on top of each other, and she was working hard. They assessed her as being well into active labor, and we were assigned a room.

We were lucky- we got the ONLY tub available on the floor, and as soon as Mom was cleared to get in the water, she did. Our nurse was absolutely sweet- I need to remember to write her a note. Mom and dad were both able to climb into the tub, and we got some peace and quiet- I'd bought some LED candles (for some reason hospitals don't like open flame around all that oxygen) and we set them up, turned down the monitor, and turned on her music. She labored like that for a little over an hour, when Mom decided she was done being brave. She wanted the epidural, and she wanted it now. We called for the nurse, and got Mom out of the tub to be checked- It was too late for an epidural. Within another 20 minutes, Mom was ready to push, and all we were waiting on was her OB. whose timing was impeccable- she walked into the room as Mom was asking WHY they didn't want her to push yet!
This OB was great. She was patient, she encouraged mom to try pushing in different posititons, and after 2 1/2 hours, Baby Girl was born! She's Perfect in every way, with APGARS of 9 &9.

I'm so proud of Mom- she was certain that baby was never going to come out, and she DID it. Only another mom or doula understands what I mean, when I say : Moms ROCK.

*Vaginal Birth After Cesearean

Packing your hospital bag-

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 13:23:00 +0000

Just got a great tip from another Doula about Packing your bag for the hospital-

DON'T DO IT.

Ask you hubby or partner to do it. Lay out everything you want to take on the bed, and have your support person pack the actual bag. YOU are going to be too busy to be rooting around in the bag for what you want, so HE will need to know where to find it! The best way for that to happen, is for him (or her) to pack the bag.

Pack more than one bag- pack one for labor, one for postpartum, one for baby, one for support person.

Things to pack:

LABOR BAG:

Birth Plan
lip balm
pillow cases (the smell of home)
toilet paper (hospital parer is scratchy!)
tooth paste and tooth brush
hair brush , and ties or clips
warm socks or slippers
rice sock
glasses or contacts and supplies
books or videos
music and player
snacks
juice, Popsicles
money for incidentals (soda, cafeteria)

Partner's Bag

Birth Plan
Cellphone and Charger
Camera and Charger
clean clothes
swim suit (in case she wants you in the shower or tub)
toiletries
books
Contact list for after the baby is born

Mom's Postpartum Bag

cosmetics and toiletries
robe
nightgown
nursing bras
underwear
going home clothes
breastfeeding video or books
cell phone and charger

Baby's Bag

clothes for baby
Baby Blanket
baby sling
Diapers

Car seat

Could it be Spring? part 2

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 04:09:00 +0000

Next Friday is supposed to be a lovely day- so we're going to the ZOO!

You're welcome to join us- We're meeting in front of the penguins at 10 AM.

We'd love to have you there!

I'm disapointed

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 14:08:00 +0000

Our first Parent Workshop has been canceled due to lack of enrollment.

We're going to shoot for a new date in April.

Could it be Spring?

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 18:48:00 +0000

Weather above freezing, TWO DAYS IN A ROW! WOO HOOO!

I am SO sick of being cold all the time! The weather is lovely, the dog is filthy, the ground is mushy, and it might , just might, be SPRING!

Well Rounded Maternity Center is hosting a Baby Signs Parent Workshop next Saturday, March 14th.
Unfortunately, the Sign Say and Play class is being canceled due to lack of interest. We will attempt to hold another SS&P class in April.

In my copious spare time....

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 22:44:00 +0000

How do people keep up with all the blogging/myspace/facebook etc? I find I need all of these tools to promote my business, but as my business gets bussier, I have very little time to keep up with the details of keeping these things up to date!

What are YOUR tips for keeping up with the computer?

Postpartum work , Twins, and BABY SIGNS!

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 13:28:00 +0000

I've been insanely busy over the last month or so, between the holidays, working full time postpartum with a couple who had twins just before Christmas, meeting potential clients for spring, trying to make time for my family- and my dog isn't speaking to me, he sees me so little.

On top of all of that, I'm working on becoming certified as a Baby Signs Instructor. Classes will begin in March- at Well Rounded Maternity Center in Menomonee Falls.

THIS is what it's all about!

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 22:37:00 +0000

Run, don't walk, to check out Patti Ramos' blog today. LOVELY shots of birth up close.

http://doulapattiramos.blogspot.com/2008/11/birth-up-close.html

Birth up close is GRAPHIC- shows peri area, penis on baby and a nipple- but we're all grown-ups, and this miracle should not be missed!

GET OUT AND VOTE!

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Sun, 02 Nov 2008 17:41:00 +0000

No matter who you vote for, it matters that you vote. Voting is a serious responsibility, and a few minutes or hours of your time is a small price to pay for the freedom provided you by a democratic society.

It's not the big elections that bother me, though... I worry about the small ones. Alderman, Councilwoman, county executive, judges, sheriffs... you need to get out to ALL of those elections, and you need to make certain you are informed about the candidates.

I'll be out on Tuesday morning, with my kid, standing in line to vote, and I'll write him an excuse if we're late to school because of it.

Your Body, Your Baby, Your Choices.

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 18:55:00 +0000

Someone recently asked me if, I as a doula would support a woman through an abortion. I've had to think seriously about that. Where do my personal beliefs have to end, to follow my calling? Do I support a woman having a birth related procedure that I do not believe is right? Does that include having an epidural? An elective c-section? An abortion? Not choosing to breast feed? Circumcising her son ... Or her daughter? Is my practice going to be "woman -centered" or "baby -centered" and are the two mutually exclusive?
I've decided to take the "Your Body, your baby, your choices" stance. As long as you have taken the time to inform yourself about your options, I will support you in your choices. I will help you to gather information, I will give you my opinion if you ask for it, and I will make sure you are prepared to defend unpopular decisions to others, if you wish. I won't sugar coat things for you, and I will try to make certain the articles that I refer you to are as unbiased as possible. Failing that, I will try to mace certain that you at least receive both sides of the issue.

The pro-lifers are right about one thing: Abortion kills babies. We cannot sugar coat this, it needs to be out there in black and white. That pregnancy, if allowed to reach it's natural conclusion, will result in a baby. Where we run into problems is at the point where people start putting the rights of a potential baby over the rights of an existing woman. Taken to an extreme, protecting "The rights of the fetus" could eventually compel every woman to be taken into custody the moment she tests positive for pregnancy, kept in custody until the pregnancy reaches full term, and delivered by a cesarean section.

For the record, I am firmly pro-choice. Your choices do not have to be the same as mine. I chose to disapprove of abortions as birth control. I believe that if your primary method of birth control fails, there is a reason for that. There are other options available to you if you choose not to raise a child that you have conceived and there are differences in choosing to abort a child who cannot survive outside the womb, and one who can. There are VALID reasons to want an abortion, and I do not need to know why you have made the choice you have made, only that you have explored all of the options open to you, before making your decision. (I will happily listen if you feel you need to explain your choice!)

That being said, if you have decided for whatever reason to terminate your pregnancy, I would be willing to be there to support you before, during and after your procedure.

Looking for volunteer models in the Milwaukee area.....

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 13:21:00 +0000

My business partner and I are thinking about adding belly casting to our repertoire of services.

Looking for pregnant moms who would be willing for us to use their bellies to practice on!

Happy Talk Like a Pirate Day! ARRRRR! And Happy Birthday Hermione Granger!

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 19:38:00 +0000

My favorite day of the year!

http://www.talklikeapirate.com

Talk like a Pirate Day song!

http://www.tomsmithonline.com/freestuff/oddio/TLAPD.mp3

and Another!(for Pirate and Potter fans!)

http://www.tomsmithonline.com/freest.../iT008_192.mp3

ARRR! have FUN ARRR!

Canceled

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 21:34:00 +0000

Unfortunately, due to lack of interest, the postpartum depression seminar has been canceled.

Picture Perfect.

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 15:37:00 +0000

Wanted: one Picture perfect Bradley birth.

I got my wish last night. Dad's home on leave from Afghanistan. He has 18 days before he has to return. On Sunday morning, mom's bag broke, spontaneously. After 21 hours of HARD labor (baby was posterior, and asynclitic) he's here. And Daddy still has 13 days of leave left, to get to know his son.

Grandma and great grandma were there- and were fantastic at anticipating mom's needs, from a sip of water, to freshening her makeup.

Mom and Dad were AMAZING. He was her rock, and she had a peaceful, mostly non interventitive birth. A little Pit, towards the end, because she was completely exhausted, but no pain medication at all, and none of the "thrashing about, screaming, sobbing" that you see on TV.

If mom had been less determined, or dad had wavered in supporting her, this would have been a c-section. It wasn't.

You know who you are.... I'm PROUD of you!

Mostly.. a doula WAITS

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 03:50:00 +0000

Waiting for a lot of things right now... a call from my client saying her hubby is home, a call from MY hubby saying he's coming home (at the cabin, they had an ADVENTURE...) another client..... morning....labor to start... labor to end.... the house to sell.... calls from friends....

POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION AWARENESS SEMINAR

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 22:55:00 +0000

Ok, folks, this one is REALLY important!

"Postpartum Depression Awareness Seminar"

Well-Rounded Maternity Center & C.A.R.E. Network are sponsoring this event to raise awareness about the postpartum depression epidemic that affects 10 - 20% of birthing women in the US. The seminar is a way for both birth professionals (nurses, midwives, doulas, lactation consultants, etc.) and women in the childbearing years to get information from local experts about the causes, symptoms and treatments for postpartum mood disorders, including the growing number of women who suffer from post traumatic stress disorder resulting from a traumatic birth experience.

As part of the seminar, we will be presenting a segment of the "Safe Motherhood Quilt." Like the AIDS quilt of years ago, this quilt honors women who were lost due to childbirth-related causes. We will be adding a quilt square to remember Jennifer Mudd Houghtaling of Oak Creek who tragically and needlessly ended her life months following the birth of her son due to postpartum psychosis.
Best Western, Brookfield
Sunday, October 12th, 2008; 1-3 p.m. Cost is $10 per person.

Praying she holds off......

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 15:21:00 +0000

My newest client is an absolute sweetheart, and we're becoming good friends. Her only real worry about this birth (her first) is that baby waits till Daddy comes home.... He's overseas on Military duty, and due home at the end of this week.

We're all just praying that he gets home in time to meet his son on his birthday!

ARRRRGH!

char@1000praisesdoulas.com (doula_char) — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 00:13:00 +0000

I hate to admit it, but I am not the most organized person on the planet. It looks like,while preparing for our move, I shredded some documents I needed for certification.... Doc's I can't replace, because the family in question has moved.

Anyone need a doula?!